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Monday, June 25, 2007

I Wore Ugly Shoes Today

And I rocked them out.

Wednesday, June 20, 2007

Hold That Thought

I'm alive, which is great. But there's no time for blogging for a while. Work is nutty. Check back with me in a couple weeks. I'll miss you, too.

Thursday, June 14, 2007

Funny You Should Ask

What am I doing today? Funny you should ask...I'm leaving Indy in less than an hour and driving to Cincinnati for our local bar association's bench bar conference. It was a blast last year and I'm completely looking forward to the mini-getaway, with CLEs thrown in for good measure.

The festivities don't technically begin until this evening's scheduled dinner, but the Reds game starts at 12:30 today, hence my early departure.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Sucked In

T and I caught the 1st 2 episodes of the current Hell's Kitchen season yesterday evening. We're hooked - or at least, I am.

I was happy to see Tiffany go, you?

Monday, June 11, 2007

Query

What is the female version of a jack-of-all-trades? A jill? A queen?

A jackette?

The Perils of Shopping

There are many reasons I don't particularly like to shop and don't do it often. I discovered another one this weekend. When preparing to try on clothes in a dressing room, I looked down and discovered that one of those protective strips from bathing suit bottoms was stuck to my flip-flop. Believe it or not, I did not hurl.

I did have to use the tip of one toe to help remove the offending item from my shoe. I followed shopping with the next best thing to sterilization of my feet: a pedicure. I should have asked for an extra scoop of that bubbly stuff.

Point of View

I'm a fan of Carrie Underwood's "Before He Cheats;" I find it hard to resist. I'm not sure whether I'm a fan of R&B singer Joe, I'd have to google him to see if I know and like any of his songs.

Yesterday I saw this clip of Joe doing a cover of Underwood's hit song. If you're a fan of the song or of Joe, check it out. He sings the shit of that country song, if you don't mind my saying so.

All in the Family

Man on cell phone exiting Castleton Sears with his daughter: She has her nose up in the air; they are so spoiled it's ridiculous!
Daughter: What are you talking about, Dad?
Man, still on phone: Yeah, she leaves for California on Tuesday and she's still being a big brat.
Daughter: Well, you're being mean; you said you wish Mom wasn't alive!

Saturday, June 09, 2007

Modern Day Torture

I got an e-mail from T yesterday around 4pm. The subject line was "our house is a sauna." It was over 80 degrees outside and though a brief storm system had lowered the humidity a bit, the morning had started out pretty sweaty.

As of yesterday afternoon, we had not turned on our air conditioner this season. My line for a while was, "it's only May!" But now it's June and since T is out of school, she is treated to hanging out in sauna-like conditions most of the day. I left the unit off to save money and because last year I was told I need a new air conditioner. I haven't had time to schedule the service call this year, so I was a little nervous about turning it on - what if it explodes?

The AC is on and hasn't exploded, but I already miss sleeping with my bedroom windows open. The sacrifices we make for our kids.

Wednesday, June 06, 2007

So Long to Bob Barker

Me: (watching the story of Bob's last taping on the news) Aww, I never met Bob Barker.
T: Was that a life long goal of yours?
Me: No, but maybe it should have been.

Professional Pet Peeve

So annoying when opposing counsel tells a court reporter at a deposition that he/she doesn't need a copy of their own client's deposition transcript....only to e-mail me months later asking for the "professional courtesy" of sending them a (FREE) copy of my client's copy.

I'm Not Ready

Not even close.

Tuesday, June 05, 2007

Must Stay Home. Must Stay Home. Must Stay Home.

My wonderful and sweet friend N and our friend and fellow nurse L, who hasn't been "out" in over a year, are in downtown Indy tonight, enjoying themselves. They just called - for the 2nd time tonight - to invite me to join them at the Claddagh for dinner, with dancing to follow at Ike's.

I'm at home, working.

Sometimes being responsible bites.

Monday, June 04, 2007

You Tell Me

-My allergies are kicking my ass. They're undiagnosed, and I have no idea what I'm allergic to, but they are undeniably driving me nuts (yes, it's a short drive). Yesterday morning I woke up sneezing and I've been sneezing, blowing my nose, and wiping my teary eyes almost non-stop since then (though I slept fine, thank goodness). So, allergy sufferers, what's in the air that's causing me all this grief?

-This morning I saw a blurb on the news about a brouhaha between Dan Wheldon and Danica Patrick. Seems their cars touched at whatever race they were running yesterday. She says he hit her rather than let her pass, he says she simply couldn't pass and is upset and under pressure because she isn't winning. I didn't see the incident itself, and I'm not really a race fan so don't know whether I'd be able to tell the difference if I had. So, race fans, is one of these two drivers clearly in the wrong here?

Sunday, June 03, 2007

I Do

Do you know married people who aren't happy? I do. Do you know married couples who wish they weren't? I do. Do you know wives who cheat on their husbands? I do. Do you know husbands who routinely treat their wives with disrespect? I do.

Why am I asking? Because I recently put my finger on what bothers me about how Americans treat marriage: society values marriage over happiness. Maybe this isn't news to you, but to this 33 year old single female, it's unpalatable. Don't misunderstand me. I'm not anti-marriage, nor am I bitter or disgruntled about the fact that I'm single. I also don't think that "happiness" is something to which each person is entitled, no matter the cost to others.

Everyone has problems, things that upset them, things that stress them out. I'm not suggesting that just because a marriage has problems it isn't a happy one or that the parties shouldn't be married. Far from it. I know enough to know that marriage takes work. It's not easy and there would be no value to it at all if it didn't require work, sacrifice, compromise. I don't think marriages are "failed" ventures if every moment is not spent in wedded bliss. But I DO think that marriage should add something to the parties' lives, should enhance those lives in some way.

I'm confused. Why do we place such value on something, on an ideal, that in reality is so. very. often. NOT beneficial to anyone, least of all the participants? I can't be the only person in the world who knows SO MANY unhappily married people. In fact, I know I'm not. Individually, people will discuss this issue honestly. As a society, we behave as though marriage is the next best thing to sliced bread.

I know a fantastic woman. She lives in Indiana, and English is her second language. She put herself through college and then through law school. She is smart, funny, and a successful attorney, respected by her peers. She has much to be proud of. She recently spoke to a group of women and young girls - a role model to be sure - and recounted her efforts in getting where she is today. After she spoke, she took questions. The first questions: are you married? do you have children? how old are you? The waves of pity from the audience were probably visible to the naked eye.

I believe in marriage. I think it is something worthy of esteem, I just think we should be honest about the state of marriage in our country. And I wish we could, collectively, find ways to return it to an institution to be revered, if it ever was, or make it so, if it wasn't.

Americans play fast and loose with marriage. They throw raucous bachelor and bachelorette parties, host lavish ceremonies in front of guests they haven't seen in years, party 'til wee hours at extravagant receptions, and engage in mandatory gift-giving to countless "happy couples." If two people have found "true love" and have committed the rest of their lives to each other, then such celebration is certainly in order. But in my humble opinion, all too often the focus seems to be on these celebrations rather than on what should be underlying them.

Do parties to marriage engage in honest self-evaluation before they plunge into a life tied to another person? Do they consider whether they want to be married, why they want to be married, and what being married to their significant others might be like - for both of them? Do they endeavor to ensure they are building their lives on a strong foundation, one that will support them, and their potential families, through the inevitable trials and tribulations of life?

I'm not married. My short and ridiculous marriage was too unconventional to give me much insight into marriage. Many of you are probably thinking I have no right to be critical of marital relationships. Maybe you're right. It's not the relationships of which I am critical, however, it is how society automatically respects those who are married, no matter the actual status of those marriages - no matter if the very people who are married are eroding what is left of the ideal of "marriage" through their words and actions, in and out of the public eye.

There are no guarantees in life. There are no sure-fire tests to predict whether certain marriages will be successful, whatever that means. Maybe all people who marry engage in honest soul-searching, and there is no way to reduce the number of unhappily married people. And though I think people take commitment too lightly, I don't believe that miserable couples should stay married and remain miserable their entire lives in the name of commitment.

I don't know if I will ever marry again. But I do know that I will not settle. I will not marry for money, or convenience, or security. I will happily embrace any and all of those things if they accompany a person who loves me and for whom I feel the same. Maybe I'll regret this resolve in ten or twenty years, but I've had enough experiences in life to believe that I won't.

To each his own. I just get tired of feeling like a second class citizen because I'm single. Why is being in a loveless marriage, or a hateful marriage, or a marriage where the parties simply tolerate each other, or a marriage where the parties feel trapped, or, heaven forbid, a marriage where the participants have become totally indifferent to one another, more socially acceptable than being single? That I just don't get.


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